Easy Way to Happiness

Have you ever done Speed Dating, or any other different versions of this trend? I’ve done it a few times over the years, and despite what I first thought, it was an absolute blast. I kept thinking about that part of 40 Year Old Virgin, with all the crazy women there, but it was nothing like that. My experience, too, is your gain. Here are a few tips to help you out.

You’ll want to take care of a few things before you walk out that door though. To start, your hygiene should be tip top. You are making an impression in a short time, so it will be scrutinized even harder than normal.

Clean yourself up, trim your nails neat, clip that nose hair. But once it is done, when you are ready to walk out that door, be DONE with it, save for a pack of mints for the dating itself.

The same thing goes for your clothing. Clean obviously, but dress to impress. I wouldn’t go too showy, just make yourself look good. Polish your shoes, hit the jacket with the lint brush, and take care of any details.

Another thing to do is practice before you go. Not just some lines, or routines, but spontaneity. How does one practice that? By saying what immediately comes to mind when having a conversation. That sounds crazy, I know, but practice with a friend. The result is that you sound more genuine. Put in a bit of time with this, it’ll help.

Recently, I tried something new – using the first “date” as a warm up. I was lucky enough when I tried this to not land a beautiful woman. I allowed myself to make as many mistake as possible. I was loosened up, and not nervous at all for the dates that followed. Do it, and you’ll make the rest of the evening much easier. It is also good if you are new to an area – you’ll get a chance to note some social and cultural differences. I tried this at 8 Minute Dating in Edmonton, when I went there for business, and landed a date for my second night there.

Focus on bringing positive energy from your end. Amp it up, and if you are having fun, people will catch on to this and have fun themselves. They’ll remember you, and your odds will be upped dramatically of landing the next date.

This also allows for a sneaky trick to happen. You will be able to take advantage of another guy’s mistakes. Odds are, the next guy will make a ton, and more than likely he’ll be uptight and nervous. If you can avoid coming across that way, you’re going to look golden after they’ve dealt with some nervous, twitchy guy. So smile, enjoy yourself, and allow them to do the same!

During the conversation, you’ll do far better if you show genuine interest in them, but as well, be ready to carry the conversation when they ask you a question. A good conversation should be back and forth, and neither side should feel drilled.

Also, make sure not to drink too much. This will blow your chances faster than anything. If they wanted a drunk guy, they’d hit a slum bar and do just fine. Don’t be that guy.

I recommend making the next date easy. If you are really enjoying yourself with this woman, when the clock runs down, let her know. Tell her “hey, I had a WONDERFUL time talking to you and would like to continue this conversation!” If you are paying attention, it’s very likely that she will agree to the next date.

When Speed Dating, it’s all about making that great impression in a short time, and allowing fun to happen, no matter how brief it is. Work with what I’ve given you here and you should do very well.