Jul 2, 2009
To Win Back Love Just Use Your Head Not Your Heart
Are you seriously looking for a way to win back love, then you are going to have to start using your head and stop taking advice from your heart! It’s as simple as that.
No doubt your heart is telling you to drop everything you have been doing and start chasing your ex and to get them listen to what you have to say, irrespective of whether they want to or not. You heart has made you believe that all your ex has to do is to hear you say how much you miss, love and want them back and they will forget about everything that went wrong take you back then and there! How could you be so wrong!
To win back love your head would never tell you to do any of that, instead your head would say, get a grip on yourself and just take some time out. Guess which one you should be listening to! Good, you’ve got it, your head!
Leave your ex alone, don’t call them, don’t try to accidentally bump into them wherever you know they hang out and don’t send them love notes or flowers. What I am basically saying is that you should make no attempt at all to contact them.
By contacting them, you are making yourself appear desperate, a pain in the backside and someone that no person in their right mind would even want to be around, let alone consider dating again. Like a black swan, aim to be hard to find where your ex is concerned! Let your ex wonder where you are and why they haven’t heard from you and just like that, they will want to hear from you and see you. Absence can make the heart fonder.
Make sure your ex knows you can stand on your own two feet, so if you have a problem you would normally ask them for help with, don’t do it! Not only does this enhance your standing with your ex, because they realize that you can cope on your own, but it also enhances your own standing in your own head. If you figure out how to cook that favourite meal that your ex used to cook for you then you realize you can cope! If you figure out how to change the oil in your car, again you realise that you can cope!
How to win back love is based on calmness and rationality. Then, and only then will your ex give you the time of day. Whatever fire is burning in your heart for your ex, allowing it to develop in to a towering inferno and influence you unduly will only be to your disadvantage. Put out those burning flames and use logic instead as this is what will ultimately help you to win back love.
