Easy Way to Happiness

The following are simple pointers on researching online and offline dating:

- In any correspondence (email or paper or message boards or chat rooms), obey the following rules: Be polite and conventional to begin with. Do not assume familiarity with a total stranger. Do not use adult language or swear-words or blather about violent or cruel acts. Women detest this sort of thing, and it makes them afraid; “uh-oh, another net loony!” Don’t boast. Spotlight your nicest qualities and your status in the flow of the correspondence, but don’t boast. Listen to what she has to say, and talk about HER and her pursuits. Don’t pester. If she doesn’t want to talk, or doesn’t respond, don’t nag her. Silence is an reply in itself. She may be occupied, she may have received mail from other guys first, or she just ain’t interested. Again, you don’t want to be seen as a weirdo-pest-stalker. For your own sake, you ought to try to get a picture of her as soon as is polite. A photograph speaks a thousand words, and you may spare yourself a lot of work. Even then, photographs can be old or manipulated or photoshopped, so ask for snapshots from her recent vacation, or the like.

- You have to give the impression that you are positive, wealthy, powerful, (and tender in private with her). If you don’t have these qualities, fake them. Women need to see potential, and the origin of the word potential is the Latin ‘potentia’, meaning power.

- Team up with a male friend to draw near women who are by themselves. This method works most smoothly at nightspots, bars, beaches, etc. Why does this give you an advantage? Because she’s less likely to reject two men in concert than one man approaching her alone. Why? Because you look more convivial; you’ve got your chum with you and you don’t seem like a ‘lone wolf’ or oddball. You’ve got a bit of intellectual support as well! Then it’s up to you and your friend which one is going to woo her.

- When you first make eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, you’re in. Then go up, and say hello. After that, take your cue from her. She likes you, so you don’t have to jabber. You can say the most commonplace things; it’s your appearance, and the sound of your voice, that’re doing most of the work. If you’re nervous, just tell yourself: “plenty more fish in the sea if I screw this up”. Which is true!

- Most important: You must not embarrass your escort in public. Women hate to be the centre of attention for the wrong reasons. If you’re acting like a little boy or an objectionable brute you’re using up your credit every second that ticks by.

- Conspicuous consumption shows that you are not stingy with your cash. Show this by spending some on her, or giving her some! Don’t be a sap, however; if the interpersonal chemistry ain’t there, on BOTH sides, move on. You can’t badger or bribe a woman into loving you, ‘though they may be loath to disdain a ’sugar daddy’ entirely. When true love strikes, you’ll both know it; accept no alternative!

- Find a self-made Casanova in your social circle, and analyse his approach. Don’t ask him questions. He might be disconcerted or he may not be aware of why he’s doing so well. But try to go on “woman-hunting expeditions” with him; any social affair where there are suitable women and he’s turnin’ on the charm. Watch, make mental notes, and learn.

- A dependable source of enquiry is the magazine rack in your local supermarket. Men should look at womens’ magazines, and the other way around. Men will discover that women fantasize about men who are: Pretty-boys, slim, sinewy (like a swimmer, not a weight-lifter), fashionably dressed-up, patrician, tight-fitting trousers, attentive, moneyed, powerful, positive, popular, makes her laugh, takes control, can talk over his feelings once in a while, yet isn’t a wet dish rag.

I hope these few simple tips will help you in finding a nice girl via online and offline dating.